QUOTES ON SOLITUDE
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom, for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.
By all means use some time to be alone.
Solitude is awesome. If you feel lonely when nobody is around at home; then you're the type that craves attention and need other humans around.
Such a great misfortune, not to be able to be alone.
The wise person often shuns society for fear of being bored.
There's one thing worse than being alone: wishing you were.
You see, the point is that the strongest man in the world is he who stands most alone. H. Ibsen
QUOTES ON LONELINESS
A man alone is always in bad company.
I don't want to be married just to be married. I can't think of anything lonelier than spending the rest of my life with someone I can't talk to, or worse, someone I can't be silent with.
I love to be alone, I never found the companion that was as companionable as solitude. H. Thoreau
I never feel alone realizing the fact that my life is my only life partner.
I've never been lonely. I never felt that one other person could cure what was bothering me. In other words, loneliness is something I've never been bothered with because I've always had this terrible itch for solitude.
I'll quote Ibsen, "The strongest men are the most alone."You know the typical crowd, "Wow, it's Friday night, what are you going to do? Just sit there?" Well, yeah. Because there's nothing out there. It's stupidity. Stupid people mingling with stupid people. Let them stupidify themselves.
I've never been bothered with the need to rush out into the night. I hid in bars, because I didn't want to hide in factories. That's all. Sorry for all the millions, but I've never been lonely. I like myself. I'm the best form of entertainment I have. Let's drink more wine!" — Charles Bukowski
If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company. Jean-Paul Sartre
Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
Maybe ever’body in the whole damn world is scared of each other. John Steinbeck (Of Mice and Men)
Nobody likes being alone that much. I don't go out of my way to make friends, that's all. It just leads to disappointment.
Real loneliness is not necessarily limited to when you are alone.
Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life's cruelest irony.
The trouble is not that I am single and likely to stay single, but that I am lonely and likely to stay lonely.
The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself. Mark Twain
We live as we dream --alone. Joseph Conrad (Heart of Darkness)
You cannot stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes said. Winnie the pooh.
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Here's a great quote by Hannah Arendt about the difference between solitude and loneliness:
"The lonely man finds himself surrounded by others with whom he cannot establish contact or to whose hostility he is exposed."
The solitary man, on the contrary, is alone and therefore "can be together with himself." In solitude, in other words, I am "by myself", together with myself, and therefore two-in-one, whereas in loneliness I am actually one, deserted by all others.
All thinking, strictly speaking, is done in solitude and is a dialogue of thought.
This quote perfectly explains how being lonely is different from being alone:
"If you are lonely, when you are alone, then you are in a bad company."
Solitude is when you voluntarily cut off from people, and it's a good thing. Everyone needs to have some pollution control from time to time, provided you are capable of being happy when you are just with yourself.
Loneliness on the other hand occurs when, people ignore you, and you become unhappy when left alone.
If you can't be happy with your own company, you will never be really happy among other people.
The difference is attitude. Solitude is savoring the delight of being alone. Loneliness is feeling the pain of being alone.
SOLITUDE
1. Solitude is a positive state.
2. It is where we are perfectly happy to be by ourselves, and relish and enjoy our own company.
3. Solitude can help us get in touch with, or engage with, our true self. It allows us to reflect on ourselves, others, our life, and our future.
4. Often, solitude is a springboard to greater self-awareness, greater creativity, fresh insights, and new growth.
5. Solitude is something we choose. It is something that restores and builds us up.
6. Solitude grounds us in who we are – and that enables us to reach out and give to others
LONELINESS
1. Loneliness is a painful, negative state.
2. It is where we feel alone, and cut off and estranged from other people. Thus, we may feel as if we are excluded, unwanted, unimportant or unnoticed.
3. We can be surrounded by people we know and love and still experience feelings of intense loneliness.
4. Loneliness feels like punishment or rejection. It is rooted in a sense of deficiency or inadequacy.
5. It is something that depletes us, and is imposed on us.
6. Loneliness can lead to self rejection, and even to self loathing and despair.
* Loneliness is a reaction. It's an emotion we feel when we have an inner desire to express, but don't know how to and have no one with whom we can share.
* Loneliness is synonymous with perceived social isolation, not with objective social isolation. People can live relatively [solitudinous] lives and not feel lonely, and conversely, they can live an ostensibly rich social life and feel lonely nevertheless.
* Loneliness is defined as a distressing feeling that accompanies the perception that one's social needs are not being met by the quantity or especially the quality of one's social relationships."
ARTICLE
What exactly is loneliness?
When you talk about being alone, it's all about solitude. But when one says he feels lonely, what one intercepts is that the person misses being with someone. He misses the company of someone.
Although, if you carefully examine, experiencing solitude rightly sums up to being alone, but being lonely is not perceived rightly.
Well, you cant overshadow the truth that what we say isnt actually what the listener hears. The same is with the word loneliness per se! When being lonely, the person doesnt actually miss the company of someone, but contrary to this (rather ironically!) he misses the company of himeslef.
Here's a necessary deviation from the topic.
In humans, the outer brain is responsible for all the physical activity we do. It communicates with the systems through a language. But the inner brain is way too different. It doesnt understand language. It just creates emotions. Its when you say, "My heart doesnt want to do this!" its actually this part of the brain denying the undesired activity. As it cant communicate through language, you just say "It doesnt 'feel' good" when you arent comfortable with something.
Now when you are alone, your outer brain is performing all the practical activities it should perform and which the normal world perfers. But here, the inner brain doesnt actually coordinate with its outer counterpart.
The inner part feels it doesnt belong there. Then there's a rush of mixed feelings, emotions, hormones literally go crazy and you yourself dont understand what you need for the moment!
Well, thats when people close to your heart should come in. But sometimes, no one does and you all of a sudden understand the creepy depth of loneliness!
You cant feel what you exactly feel and you feel things which you arent supposed to feel.
Thats when you just stare at the chat box of your dear friend and feel unwanted!
You just stare and stare and stare and continuosly stare at it, become hollow and unfortunately, you are always reminded only of the bad things about the person. Your Brain's inner core doesnt recollect one single good thing about the person and that's when the gap in the friendship widens!
How ironical is that?
You didnt speak a single word with the person. He was probably busy with what he was doing or might it be the case that he was thinking about you per se. But you inner core ruptured everything and you felt lonely!
Loneliness disturbs you and shakes you till you are literally devastated for the moment.
But what exactly is Loneliness?
Sometimes, you just feel to stop every activity, stop talking to anyone. Thats when you brain is overloaded with work and you need some solitude. Here, you actually need to be alone, but sadly you start feeling lonely and unwanted!
"Can you give me some time alone please? should be the thing you should say to your beloved friend when you feel it. But instead you say, "I dont want to talk right now! I feel unwanted by you!"
Now the other friend feels bad about it, but he too instead of demanding some solitude, talks to his other friends to get rid of his loneliness!
Next morning you wake up, its then you realise you made something huge out of nothing. But unfortunately its too late. The chain reaction has already killed the tenderness in relationships in just a night and with just one sentence describing the loneliness!
Worst than that,
What if you actually dont wake up?
It is dreadly even to thinkthat you died leaving all the other people devastated!
We can definitely avoid this. The next time you feel the same, stay calm, probably you need some sleep.
The next day you wake up, you realise that you did a good thing by taking control over yourself!
Cheers!
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